Marriage

candle-flowersWeddings at San Francisco Solano are celebrated on Saturdays at 10:00 am, 12:00 pm, and 2:00 pm.  Arrangements must be made a minimum of six months in advance with a parish priest.

Contact: Alma Helms-949 589-7767 Ext. 2112
Email: ahelms@sfsolano.org

Congratulations!

On behalf of the parish community of San Francisco Solano, we, the priests and parish staff, congratulate you for your decision as a couple to commit yourselves to each other, to the Lord, and to this community of faith through the Sacrament of Marriage. It is our hope that you will not only have a memorable wedding day, but also long and full lives together, richly blessed by God in ways you cannot now foresee.

It is our privilege to join with you as you prepare for your wedding day and married life.

To be ‘married in the Church’ is not simply to have a religious ceremony in the church building. Rather, it is to approach marriage, celebrate marriage, and live marriage ‘in the Church,’ that is, as active members of the Body of Christ that is the Church community.

The wedding is not simply a prayer of blessing upon the couple. Rather, it is a solemn act of consecration by which you commit yourselves to each other in Christ until death. Clearly, this is a noble and generous decision. It is one of the Church sacraments that manifest the wonder and beauty of the Lord’s living presence among us.

We ask you to make these months of preparation a time of spiritual growth by words and deeds of thankfulness, daily prayer, and weekly participation in the Eucharist (Sunday Mass). In this way you will live open to the Lord’s action in your lives, and your wedding ceremony will be an authentic expression of who you are and how you live.

In your love for each other, the Lord’s love for you becomes manifest. In your love for each other, the Lord’s love for others becomes manifest.

May God who is Love gather you in the divine embrace forever.

Sincerely in Christ,

The Priests and Parish Staff of San Francisco Solano Parish

Marriage Guidelines

  • Arrangements for marriage begin with an interview of the couple by a priest of the parish. One of the parties must be a registered member of San Francisco Solano Parish. Unless there are special considerations, the date and time of the marriage will be set at this meeting. Diocesan policy requires at least six months of preparation time.
  • In the case of a marriage between a Catholic and non-baptized person, a non-Eucharistic liturgy of marriage is appropriate.
  • The church environment reflects the various liturgical seasons: Advent, Christmas, Lent,  Easter, Pentecost, and Ordinary Time. The decor for these seasons takes precedence over other decor. Please keep in mind that Easter is celebrated for 50 days, culminating at Pentecost, the liturgical color of which is red.
  • The following in a summary of stipends provided San Franciso Solano Parish and Staff.
Church: Parishioner–Minimum of $450.00
Non-parishioner–$1,000.00
(paid at the time the marriage is scheduled)
Wedding Coordinator: $150.00
Organist/Accompanist: $200.00
Cantor: $175.00
Altar Server 1: $15.00
Altar Server 2: $15.00

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Required Documents

  • For Catholics, a new Baptismal certificate, issued from the church of baptism and dated within six months of the wedding date is required. For other baptized persons, a copy of the original baptismal certificate is required.
  • For Catholics, photocopies of First Communion and Confirmation certificates are required.
  • ‘Freedom to Marry’ forms, two for each person, signed by parents or relatives and witnessed by a priest or notary public are required.
  • Each couple must participate in San Francisco Solano Parish’s marriage preparation program, which has two components. First, the couple will take the FOCCUS Inventory at the parish office during regular office hours (9 am to 12 noon and 1 pm to 5 pm) within one week of the initial appointment.  A married couple wil be assigned to assist with the couple’s marriage preparation (generally one meeting in the married couple’s home to discuss the engaged couple’s FOCCUS Inventory and other topics related to married life). Please allow forty-five minutes to an hour for completion of the FOCCUS Inventory.
  • Also, the couple will participate in a day-long marriage preparation program, offered at San Francisco Solano Parish. The parish will issue a certificate of completion of marriage preparation once the couple fulfills the marriage preparation requirements. If a couple cannot attend the Saturday marriage preparation program at San Francisco Solano, they may attend an Engaged Encounter Weekend or one of the Deanery VI marriage preparation programs, offered in various local parishes.
  • A valid marriage license for the State of California is submitted to the parish office at least one week prior to the marriage.
  • The priest or deacon preparing you for marriage will complete the Pre-Nuptial Questionaire, which determines the couple’s freedom to marry and appropriate intentions in preparation for marriage, once all the sacramental records have been acquired.
  • Some couples may need to obtain a dispensation from a certain condition in order to marry in the Roman Catholic Church. The most common dispensation is that required for couples’ entering an interfaith marriage, that is, where one party is Catholic, and the other is from another faith tradition. The priest will discuss with the couple the reason and process for obtaining any required dispensations.

Wedding Music: Guidelines and Information

Christian marriage is more than a private celebration of love. It is an act of worship, a celebration of a sacrament of the Church, and therefore, the music selected for the wedding should be appropriate for a Catholic liturgical celebration.
Music chosen for the wedding liturgy must be religious in nature so that the faith and prayer of the assembled community be both expressed and strengthened. Popular love songs that exclude God are liturgically unacceptable either before, during, or after the wedding liturgy. Love songs and popular ballads are best left to the reception.

The wedding liturgy is unique among the festivities surrounding the preparations and wedding day, and the music for it should suit its unique role. Your exchange of vows is an act of public worship; you commit yourselves to one another in the presence of the people of God, the Church. The vows, prayers, scripture readings, the giving and receiving of rings, the nuptial blessing—all of these are for you and everyone present an expression of faith in God and in each other.

A first step in planning the church music for your wedding is to contact the Director of Music, Ms. Brenda von Gremp, at 949/589-7767, ext. 2115. A formal consultation will be planned, and at that time, music selection, accompanist, cantor, and additional instrumentalists, if requested, will be discussed. The Director of Music must approve in advance all music and musicians who will provide liturgical music for the celebration of a marriage at San Francisco Solano Church. The fee for the accompanist is $150. The fee for the cantor is $125.

Photographers and Videographers

The following are guidelines have been adopted regarding photographs and videos:

  1. Upon arrival at church, please check in with wedding coordinator. Normally the church will be available for set-up approximately 45-60 minutes before the ceremony.
  2. No flash pictures are to be taken during the ceremony.
  3. During the actual ceremony, all still photos must be taken from a location behind the last row of guests. You may not approach the altar during the ceremony.
  4. The wedding coordinator will advise you of the two locations from which a video camera mounted on a tripod can be placed prior to commencement of the ceremony. At both locations the tripod must remain stationary. If the location closest to the choir area is chosen, the videographer may stay with the camera as he or she will be screened from the guests.
  5. Pictures may be taken in the church for 15 minutes immediately following the Mass or Ceremony. Photographs of the entire wedding party also may be taken in the meditation garden or in front of the church or in the patio area. If requested, the celebrant will join the bride and groom for a picture.
  6. Please discuss any questions with the wedding coordinator.